If you want to avoid rejection, never do anything and never be anything. Failure is scary, certainly, but you're sure to fail if you never try at all.Psychologists suggest something they call re-framing. They suggest putting a new frame, the best possible construction, on any situation. So that hottie in math class isn't interested? Maybe he/she is seeing someone. Maybe they are attracted to your exact opposite. Could be that they're looking for a sugardaddy/mama. Who knows? You can't know for sure, so why do you automatically assume it's because you're not attractive?
Despite what the media has tried to make you believe, there are many different kinds of attractive, not just the kind that lives in Hollywood. There's the sexy brainiac, the sweet charmer, the romantic hero/heroine, the boy/girl nextdoor... There is an endless supply of attractive personalities out there, and you can have one of them if you let the real you shine through and stop avoiding rejection.
Valentine's Day is also Abraham Lincoln's birthday. Now think, if you will, what might have happened to our country if Abe was so afraid of rejection that he just let the South leave the Union without a fight, never freed the slaves, and never ran for president at all! Abe took risks, and he was rejected, but he kept taking more risks and some people (no matter how few) accepted him.
2 comments:
You're right, you'll never know unless you try... everyone gets rejected sometimes.
Risk is definitely an important part of everyones life. Risk is the factor that shows who the leaders are and who the followers are. With out taking a risk you will never learn anything new or try out a new activity. Risk allows us to have adrenaline and WANT to do something or seek that same rush the next time we do it. I am a cyclist and I love the risk with sprinting down a straight away at 30mph and then sweeping into a 90 degree turn with another rider on both sides of you. I enjoy riding for the thrill of it, for the rush the risk of it brings. With out risk, we will never grow and develop into anything new, anything better. If we dont risk we wont learn what we like and dont like, we will never know our true limits.
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